Maternity is a magical journey of bringing a new life to existence through your own body & watching it grow with all love. Guess what – its life transforming. The moment we announced that we’re pregnant, our family & friends were in cloud nine. Right from the pampering the ‘to-be-mom’ gets to the ‘terrifying delivery stories told by all women’, ‘pregnancy taboos to parental advise’ – trust me, I’ve underwent every single experience just like every other moms.
Though the news of my pregnancy has settled in, but it still doesn’t seem quite real to me as there were numerous thoughts running around my head. Will I be a good mother? Will my baby get enough nourishment? About my career? My hub & I decided to keep the sunny side up & celebrate the journey throughout despite those that was bothering me. My family stood with me throughout the journey to make it a life time experience.
My pregnancy journal – A personal reflection which grew along with my bump was one of the idea to cherish the beautiful moments. I set aside a specific time each day – unplugged the electronic devices, in the peacefulness of the dark – started penning down my symptoms, day today experiences, my cravings, names for my lil munchkin, parenting, labor, about my growing belly. I recorded the experiences sacrosanct.
Bonding Time – I used to place my hand on my belly & gently massage, feel her & start talking to her – about almost anything! As days grow, I started feeling movements whenever I start talking to her. Such is the magic of our bonding time.
Bliss – Gone were those days where we would literally wait for hours together in the scan center to watch the tiny little toes that would make those hours worthy of! Thud Thud – First kick – Oh my god! I’ve heard people talking about butterfly effect & that’s the first time felt it – out of world feel.
Household chores – Initially was feeling guilty blowing off the household chores. As the body started signaling more rest, it has become the norm. My hub took over & started his culinary journey – guinea pig being ‘me’! Since I was handling a new project, there were lot of pressure at office & thank god – I only had to tackle the work pressure & nothing at home! He insisted to hone in on what’s really needed to prepare for a healthy pregnancy, normal labor, healthy baby & a smooth transition into the motherhood!
Natural birth – My hospital organized a Pre-natal exercise class & I was all excited. I was given a food chart which seemed next to impossible to consume all of it in a day while I was continuously throwing up! Whenever I’m hesitant – I would remember my lil munchkin – immediately will grab a morsel of food & have it mouthful! Learnt some good exercises to tone & strengthen the pelvic muscles. Right from that day, I religiously followed those postures & movements along with 45 minutes of brisk walk – with my mind filled with only one goal – Natural birth! Everyone at home took turns to accompany me during the 45 mins walk – A walk to remember!
Maternity Photoshoot & baby shower – My hub & I tried shooting some eventful shots that would go into my pregnancy book! A grand baby shower was organized with all my family & friends – quite a happy moment!
Yay or Nay – While in the process, even a stranger passing by would shower with the do’s & no-nos of pregnancy – some were sensible, some were blown out of proportion & some were utter nonsense! Wondered ‘which position I should sleep? Amidst sleep that I barely get – Should I getup & then turn to the other side? Should I eat for two? I think it’s a boy – your stomach doesn’t show up at all’… huh.. I freaked out! Did I talk about the terrifying delivery stories I heard – My labor pain was for 2 days, I was crying in the labor room for hours together, I did not have labor pain at all – Again I did not know what’s going to be my state!
Labor Class – The day when I & my hub attended the labor class conducted by the hospital made a full stop to all my freaky thoughts. An eye opening session. The thought that really eased me was when the doctor said your husband should accompany you in the labor room (strictly!) during the labor. I was told – ‘Relax & don’t panic’, breathing technique & being hydrated – magic mantra for natural easy birth! I started feeling positive as I breathed in the mantra.
Actual Labor – It was the Big Day! Previous day was eventful as I watched my first movie in theatre during my pregnancy days – my favorite one actually. While relishing those thoughts to cover up the restlessness & uneasiness – my night was yet another sleepless night. Early morning 5’o clock – I had my first contraction. Just waited myself to see a pattern & bingo – had my next contraction in the next 8 minutes. I woke up my hub & together we monitored the pattern to finally conclude it was labor pain & it was 6 AM by the time! Thank God – my maternity bag was packed & I only had to put through the labor pain & not the pain of packing! The labor pain was similar to the menstrual pain but with high intensity! I remembered my mantra & prayed for a while – was pretty relaxed, breathe in breathe out, sipped in good amounts of water throughout the travel towards hospital. By the time, I reached hospital, it was 7’o clock & my cervix was 7cm dilated already. Doctor with a smile on her face said – ‘Ramya, if you cooperate, you will deliver in next 15 minutes’! With my hub next to me I breathed out my lil munchkin, apple of my eye, my darling daughter sharp at 7:48 AM. I & my hub exchanged a soulful smile with tears rolling out – as the little one was lying on me for the first time… I was smitten at that very moment – Love at first sight!! Though I had to put up with pain – the mantra that my doctor taught actually helped to ease the whole process & let me enjoy amidst the pain!
Motherhood – It all started from holding the baby in my arms for the first time and watching my baby’s first smile. It’s a rollercoaster ride with lots of laughter, mood swings – and some surprise tears! That’s my journey of pregnancy to the state of elated bliss!